Starting Over

June 20, 2013

Every event and happening in like a chapter in each person's book. One can choose to end the chapter and start a new one . . . so can I, Its my life - My Book!

Moving on and letting go isn't easy, but sometimes you need to start over and be new again.

I have been hanging on to this for some time now. Many times I had tried to let go and move on but it seems difficult to do so - still holding on to the little trust I had. As some of the quotes says which was really true. It is not the person that you miss sometimes when you hear a music played, but it is the memories and emotions that was brought back when listening to it. Feeling like a fool now, and its time to start over again when it seems that all the trust was broken.

The journey of Healing - You will begin to HEAL when you let go of past hurts, forgive those who have wronged you and learn to forgive yourself for your mistake.
Reading up on how some people overcome their heartbreak . . . all I could summarize is to forgive and forget. Some of the best tips I really like (trying it out, keeping my fingers crossed that it will work) :

Let go of those who are already gone. – The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn't mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.

Forgive people and move forward. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn't mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.

Keep your promises and tell the truth. – If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. – Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationship, start with bad communication.

Pay attention to your relationship with yourself. – One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?

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I may not be able to re-write my book all over again from the beginning, but I could start to draft the next chapter carefully. Each chapter turned, I will be have a chance to start over on things which was not idealized.

Having fought the emotional battle, which is still a battling ground. I may be able to fool myself from time to time countering the pain which still surface once in while. Though I did pretended that I'm glad he went away . . . but who would know the real emotions - but myself. Keeping the memories embedded, it is indeed time to be start over. Be it the emotional health or the mental health. It is already causing a havoc to the entire self well-being.

The question is still there, am I really ready to let go of everything.


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Once you feel you are avoided by someone, Never disturb them again
This is quite true, this is what I usually call - sticky. Anyway, I don't want to be called crazy or harassing them with the constant messages and calls to that person. Although I did not do those things, but it not my nature to bug someone for too long after knowing that I am being avoided. But anyhow, I still dislike the idea of being abandoned like this and left without a reason and goodbye.

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